Is it a crime to fall in love? That is exactly the question that Mrs. Folasade Esther (surname withheld by us) has asked herself a million times. She has been seeking an answer after her heartthrob, who works with an oil company in Akwa Ibom State, reportedly turned his back on her and their two children to marry a lover he met on Facebook. Daily Sun gathered that when Folasade, a physically challenged lady, got married, most people thought it was a marriage made in heaven.
Unfortunately, the one-time happy union later turned to hell on earth. Although the bride counts herself blessed for having two lovely children, she does not hide the fact that the six-year-old marriage had brought her more tears than joy.
Folasade said her husband, who she met 15 years ago in Lagos, suddenly broke his marital vows after battering her for years. The proof of her agony could be seen on her body, full of indelible scars from bruises allegedly inflicted on her by her husband. Folasade said she bore her sorrows in uncomplaining meekness, casting her hopes on the Christian assurance that all would be well again.
To her disappointment, things got worse. Her heroic endurance was shattered recently when the father of her children fell into the arms of another woman on the social interactive site, Facebook. Since then, things fell apart, as he allegedly subjected her to rounds of beatings and starvation.
Grieved by the incident, the young lady recounted with tears how she laboured for five days in the hospital for the delivery of her baby, regretting that her husband neither showed up nor called. She said his uncaring attitude at that time was a clear message that he had something up his sleeves.
“He never called to ask after my condition. I was later transferred to the General Hospital, Uyo and they had to carry out a caesarean section on me. By then, the baby was so weak and it passed away the next day,” she lamented. With songs of sorrow on her lips, Folasade’s hypertensive condition has deteriorated so badly that she has to live on drugs. Struggling with a crutch to support her disabled leg in the face of her present health crisis and at the same time fending for her two under-aged children has left the 36-year-old lady truly traumatised.
She told the reporter that she had to wash her dirty linen in public because her husband made her life so miserable. On whether they were live-in-lovers, she said they got married in the law court six years ago. “We were in courtship for several years. During the courtship, I got pregnant for him and gave birth to my son. Later, we wedded legally at the Akwa Ibom registry in 2007, about six years ago.
I have already had my son before that court marriage. My son will be 10 next month. After the court marriage, I gave birth to a baby girl,” she said. Folasade said trouble slipped into her marriage when her husband started dating a strange woman on Facebook. According to her, the new lover was a divorcee and mother of four children. “Our problem started when they started online dating. Last time, I went to give birth to my baby at UK.
That was about three years ago. I noticed that anytime I travelled, the lady would come over to my marital home and stay with my husband. I have been noticing other changes in my husband’s attitude towards me. So, I started suspecting my husband.
It is a case of a dog that wags its tail whenever it sees you, but all of a sudden, it will see you and start barking. I knew that something was wrong,” she said. Folasade said her curiosity to find out the problem from her husband earned her merciless beatings.
The case got worse whenever she summoned courage to complain to his friends and relatives, pleading with them to intercede on her behalf. Such step, she said, won her more beatings and the stoppage of the N30,000 monthly feeding allowance for the entire family.
Folasade said she did everything to make her marriage work and possibly win back her husband’s love but her matrimonial home kept falling apart.
She said her husband, at a point, abandoned her and the kids for about a month, leaving them without any money for their feeding. “When these troubles began, I called some of his bosses to explain, pleading with them to talk to him. But anytime I called his friends to help us make peace, things would get worse. I noticed that if his family tried to talk to him, he would never listen. He is the breadwinner of the house, so, nobody can fault his actions. If they don’t support him, then, he will starve them too.”
The aggrieved mother said the height of her agony came on May 15 when he turned her to a punching bag. Aside battering her, she narrated how she became a public spectacle when her husband allegedly tore her clothes to shreds and threw her outside the gates of their house at night.
She had to seek refuge at the Police Station, Eket, she said. According to her, she reported the matter to the police at Eket, while some Good Samaritans provided clothes to cover her nudity. “The police came to arrest him but he refused to open the door.
The way he beat me, I couldn’t see anything, not even my phone. I was tattered when I got to the police station at Eket. The police came back again but he refused to open the door. He later called the DPO to complain that armed robbers came to his house to rob him. He saw the officers that came in police uniform but he turned the whole story around, calling them armed robbers,” she said.
When he finally showed up at the Police Station, Folasade said the Divisional Police Officer (DPO) ordered him to take her to the hospital for treatment.
But she said he only drove her home and left for work. She said her agony worsened in the night when his lover came to their house with another lady and they slept with her husband in the bedroom. Folasade said she and her children had to sleep in another room. But she was yet to experience the worst.
According to her, she was returning from the hospital on Friday, May 17, where she had gone to treat her wounds, when she sighted a big truck in their compound. Her husband, aided by his Facebook lover and the woman’s sister, allegedly removed every item in the house. Not even her personal belongings or those of her children were spared, she said. Folasade said she kept her distance to avoid further trouble. And when the truck drove off, she walked into an empty house where, in her words, she wailed in agony. When it dawned on her that her tears could not restore her lost fortunes, she hurriedly went to pick her children from school and they left their home empty handed.
“There is nothing I brought out of my house. Not even my underwear were left for me. I lost everything. My children had nothing to wear expect the school uniform they wore to school on that day. It is as bad as that,” she said.
When our reporter contacted the husband on the telephone, he said he wouldn’t join issues with his wife on the pages of a newspaper. Further attempts to persuade him to open up met a brick wall, as he abruptly hung up.
Although the husband has chosen to be silent, Folasade is shouting at the rooftop. She is calling on human rights groups, association of physically challenged persons, Ministry of Women Affairs and other relevant agencies to fight for her.
With her two children by her side, the task of building from ground zero seemed daunting. But she had vowed never to allow the custody of her two children in the hands of a strange woman that lured her husband away from their marital home. “I am handicapped. There is little I can do. He should take care of his children.
He should provide money for the training of these children. I want to beg human rights groups, the association of physically challenged persons and concerned activists to save me from the hands of this man that subjected me to all these abuses over the years.
He turned me to a punching bag, starving me and throwing my children and I out of the house. He believed there is nothing I have or that there is nothing I can do. But I have God,” she said.
This is so terrible, i wonder how some people will become an animal within some hours.
I cant stand men who beat their wives